Dry fruit gift hamper
Almonds, cashews and dates in a festive tray. The safest Diwali gift there is.
Indian gifting etiquette: the dos and don'ts
Shagun amounts, wrapping colours, gifts to avoid and how to give and receive gifts in Indian families — a practical etiquette guide.
Why etiquette matters here
In India, a gift carries more than the object inside. It reflects respect for the family, the occasion and sometimes long-held beliefs. Most people will appreciate any sincere gift, but a few simple habits help you avoid an awkward moment, especially with elders and in-laws.
Customs vary a lot between regions, communities and families, so treat these as common practices, not rules.
The dos
- Add a little extra to cash gifts. Shagun is usually given in amounts ending in 1, like ₹101, ₹501 or ₹1,001. The extra rupee is meant to signal continuity and good wishes.
- Bring sweets. For festivals and visits, a box of mithai or dry fruits alongside your gift is almost expected.
- Wrap in bright colours. Red, yellow, gold, green and pink are considered auspicious for festivals and weddings.
- Offer with your right hand or both hands. Especially when giving to elders, it reads as respect.
- Check dietary preferences. Many families are vegetarian, and some avoid eggs, onion or garlic. Choose eggless cakes and vegetarian hampers when unsure.
Silver coin in a gift box
A small Lakshmi-Ganesh silver coin. Traditional, auspicious and easy to gift.
Gifts many families avoid
- Sharp objects like knives or scissors, which some believe 'cut' the relationship.
- Handkerchiefs, associated with tears in some traditions.
- Black wrapping or all-black gifts for weddings and festivals, as black is sometimes linked with bad luck.
- White flowers only. All-white arrangements are often associated with condolence. Mix in colour for celebrations.
- Leather for religious occasions or for families who avoid animal products.
- Alcohol, unless you are certain the family drinks.
If you really want to give something on this list, a small coin given back by the receiver is a common way some families 'neutralise' it.
Receiving gifts
In many Indian homes, gifts are not opened in front of the giver. It is meant to keep the focus on the person, not the present. Don't be offended if your gift is set aside politely. A quick thank-you message later is the norm.
Office and teacher gifts
Keep these modest and similar in value across people. Plants, journals, chocolates and tea hampers are safe. Avoid jewellery, perfume or clothing for colleagues and teachers, as they can feel too personal.
Money plant in a ceramic pot
Low-maintenance, considered lucky, and it grows with her. Ideal for a new home or desk.
Hardbound journal and pen set
For notes, gratitude lists or the novel she keeps meaning to start.
Ferrero Rocher gift box
Gold-wrapped hazelnut chocolates. Instantly recognisable and always welcome.
Tea tasting hamper
Assam, Darjeeling and a few herbal blends with a cup. For the woman who starts every day with chai.
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